IS THE LET THEM THEORY RIGHT FOR YOU? In this episode of the Podiatry Legends Podcast, I host an open debate about The LET THEM Theory by Mel Robbins. I’m joined by Carly O’Donoghue, who loves the book, and Elan Silver, who has a few issues with it.
Together, we unpack the real-world relevance of this viral mindset theory for podiatrists and business owners alike. ORDER The LET THEM Theory.
What is the LET THEM Theory?
At its core, Robbins encourages us to stop trying to control other people’s reactions. Whether it's a patient, staff member, or family member—"let them" react how they want. It’s not your job to manage their emotions. Instead, you focus on your own intentions, values, and next actions.
The Clinical & Business Application
Carly shared how the book can help you have difficult conversations with confidence, whether with a colleague or a parent at school. Elan, however, raised a valid concern: the theory might be misapplied by those lacking emotional intelligence or maturity.
For example, avoiding hard conversations altogether under the guise of “letting them” could actually harm relationships or performance.
Leadership Through Boundaries
As business owners, we often avoid giving feedback to staff or raising issues with patients because we fear conflict. The LET THEM Theory reminds us that their reaction isn’t ours to manage; we just need to communicate with kindness and clarity.
Letting go of that fear can significantly reduce stress and increase productivity.
The Other Side of the Coin: Let Me
We also explored the often-overlooked "Let Me" side of the theory. Let them behave how they want, but let me decide how I respond. Let me reset expectations. Let me move on. Let me lead. This is where the real power lies. It’s not about passivity; it’s about reclaiming your focus.
Should You Read the Book?
Carly says yes, especially if you’re constantly people-pleasing or feeling emotionally drained. Elan recommends it too, but with caution. Not every reader will interpret it in a healthy way.
As for me, I deliberately did not read the book before this episode, so that I could stay neutral, but now I’m convinced it’s worth opening up, even just one page at a time.
Listen now, and let us know if you are on Team Carly, Team Elan, or somewhere in between. If you have any questions for Carly or Elan, please email me at tyson@podiatrylegends.com.
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